Rings...

Well, since my wife is getting ready to go to BMT, and we didn't want her to lose any of her good wedding rings while she was there, crawling around in the dirt, we decided to order some matching wedding rings. We thought it would be a good idea, to act as a quick reminder to each of us, that the other one, had the same exact ring on, and would be thinking of each other as well.

I had planned to send an item with my wife to BMT, but come to find out, that would have been a very bad thing to do. So now, all she will really have in BMT as a quick reminder of me, is this matching wedding ring.

In the process as well, and something we will make a tradition, is we will not take our rings off until she returns home. At night, we both normally take our rings off, that way they don't get lost or what not. Well, with these matching rings, we promised each other, that we will not be taking them off at all, until she returns home from Tech school. That way, if she's having a rough day, or I'm having a rough day, all we will have to do is look down, and see our rings that match, and think of each other. It'll hopefully be a little comfort in knowing that she is wearing the same one for the same reason as me. Love you baby!

People take things like this for granted, but when's the last time, you looked down at your wedding band, and really, I mean really thought about your spouse, and how much you love them or appreciate them. Take the time, and honestly think about your spouse the next time you look down to your left hand and see that wedding band there. Call them, write them, in this day in age, send them a text. Just let them know and make them feel loved and appreciated.

Rough Day...

Well, yesterday was a bit of a rough day for me mentally.

On Facebook, I've liked a couple of pages....USAF Basic Military Training and AF Wing Moms. Each page, gives tips and keeps you updated as to what's going on.

Well, I got to reading some of the posts, and a flood of emotions came over me. For those that know me, I'm not really all that emotional of a guy, so this is kind of new territory for me. I believe, in my mind, that the reason this is so emotional, is because I'm going to miss my wife...plain and simple.

I've been on the leaving side when I myself left for Basic Training. I've been on the dependent side of things, when my father had to go TDY or called out to the base on alert. This however, is something new. I'm not used to being, the dependent spouse. As a spouse, you're used to being able to bounce ideas off of, in concerns of the family. You're used to sharing duties around the house. Well, in a military family, the spouse, has to be as strong as the military member. The biggest difference I see between a single parent and a military spouse is, as a single parent, you know the other one is gone, and most likely not coming back. As a military spouse, you have the highs of the spouse coming home and getting to spend time at home, but also the lows and fears, of never knowing when your spouse may get called away in duty, or even where they may be going, depending on the current situation.

Yesterday, I had a rough day. My wife that has slept next to me for 9+ years now, will not be able to sleep next to me, for 6+ months. I know this seems little when compared to some assignments some spouses get, but this is long enough for me. It made me emotional to, because I'm used to laying down with my wife every night, and used to waking up in the morning with her next to me. Add the reading of the pages, plus the girls asking questions, and it just made for a rough day yesterday.

Sweetie, all I can say, is I will do my best at home, and make sure you concentrate and knock out BMT and Tech an soon as possible and get back home. I know you will do great, and just remember that we are very proud of you and what you are doing. Get'er done, and get back home safely! Love you. The girls and I will be back home cheering you on from home.

Time is Drawing Near...

The time is drawing near when wife will be heading to BMT. I for one, am not looking forward to the day that my wife, the mother of my children heads to BMT. As a loving, supportive husband, I can't help but be excited, worried, nervous, for the one I love as she follows her dreams of serving this great country.

We have so many things to do, and very little time to do them in now. As you may or may not know, I am a disabled veteran. I have plenty of knee and back issues to go around for a lifetime. One of the issues that we have run in to, is the girls being worried about mommy ending up like daddy. Of course though, we have been constant at letting them know, that I had a dangerous job (started out as a firefighter until I was injured) while I was in, and that mommy, has a job, that is no where near as dangerous as I had.

While I pray that the time will move like molasses on a cold day while my wife is here, I'm sure it will move a lot quicker than I would like. In the time still left before she leaves for BMT, we have so many things to do, from organizing the house where the girls can help, to making sure that I have all the dates written down for kindergarten registration and tball registration and all the Girl Scout functions that my oldest will need to go to.

My wife will have one more drill prior to going to BMT, where she will have one more chance to prepare herself for the rigors that will befall her while she is there, and the girls and I will have one more weekend to try and get in a routine of stuff that we need to do around the house on the weekends and throughout the week.

I'm sure I will be a wreck as the weeks turn to days and the days turn to hours before my wife is set to ship off for BMT. I know I will have to be strong for my girls that way they can remain confident and strong at home while mommy is away. Even though I don't seem like much the type to show emotion or cry for that matter, I'm sure I will have my times. All you macho guys out there that don't think guys are supposed to tear up, guess REAL men, do tear up or cry. It takes a real man to do it...and I'm sure that I will have my times over the extended period she is away, where I tear up. As time draws near, I'm sure I will be a little more edgy than normal, and a little more emotional. I will do my best though, to make sure my daughters see a strong father.

I am extremely happy for my wife, that she is able to follow her dreams and serve this great country. It swells me with pride as her husband and swells me with pride that she is showing our daughters, that if you work for something hard enough, and truly want something, that nothing can hold them back from that. Not man, not circumstances...NOTHING!!!

As time draws near, I will be updating this more, as more will be going on in preparation of our change in lifestyle as a military family in transition.

As Time Draws Near....!